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Posted by on Dec 29, 2013 in Blog, Sharon | 0 comments

Authenticity

Authenticity

A common trait of giftedness is a passion for authenticity and truth. Because gifted individuals are able to perceive the smallest inconsistencies in facts as well as the hidden motivations of others, they are often flooded with strong emotions as they attempt to reconcile this need for authenticity and truth with the words and actions of those around them. Even the “white Lie” can cause angst, as it violates both of these needs at the same time that it is recognized as an attempt of kindness. The perfect storm begins to develop when you add to this the fact that many gifted individuals have learned to “fit in” by distorting their own image, first to others, but then often over time, even to themselves. For many, it is during the process of parenting their own gifted children that they come face-to-face with their hidden or buried authentic self. The impact of this experience can be enormous as they struggle not only to process an evolution in their own identity, but also reconcile the fact that they themselves have not lived up to their own core values of authenticity and truth. Because gifted individuals tend to hold themselves to such a high standard, coming to terms with how they ended up in this situation often involves dealing with strong feelings such as anger, guilt, relief, denial, shame, excitement, and even fear of that excitement. This experience can be emotionally devastating even though it is ultimately profoundly liberating.

~Sharon