Needed: A Safe, Accepting Envirnoment
Gifted individuals often learn very early, that their thoughts and experiences do not always resonate well with others, and the sadness and disappointment of this can be fierce. Because of this, it can be easy to start down the path of protecting oneself by holding their intense feeling inside. As parents of gifted children we can ensure that our children grow up trusting that the wonderful things that they hold dear to their hearts can be shared in a safe, accepting environment.
From Stephen King, Different Seasons: “The most important things are the hardest to say. They are the things you get ashamed of, because words diminish them — words shrink things that seemed limitless when they were in your head to no more than living size when they’re brought out. But it’s more than that, isn’t it? The most important things lie too close to wherever your secret heart is buried, like landmarks to a treasure your enemies would love to steal away. And you may make revelations that cost you dearly only to have people look at you in a funny way, not understanding what you’ve said at all, or why you thought it was so important that you almost cried while you were saying it. That’s the worst, I think. When the secret stays locked within not for want of a teller but for want of an understanding ear.”